What’s wrong with women? What’s wrong with men? What’s wrong with me? If you’ve been reading and sharing articles that try to answer those questions you might be part of the problem. The manosphere and nearby reading circles have taken on a silly penchant tough-love news and placing blame anywhere that they can get an “amen!” to back up their choice. They’re making the problem worse.
Playing the blame game and venting social frustrations every time that a bias confirmation comes along will leave the door open to receive some truly awful advice, and feminists are hip to this game. Conservative men just love to tell women how to behave, and they get an even bigger kick out of seeing conservative women telling men (and occasionally other women) how to behave.
Nobody likes a male feminist. Nobody. And nobody should like a female manosphere advocate either.
Counter-Cultured USA likes to kick around topics and questions related to male and female identity, gender performance, and sexuality. They have a distinctly conservative flavor of opinion with a strong pro-second amendment stance, and if you’re a huge fan of Breitbart then you’ll probably think that Counter-Cultured is the next best thing. Counter-Cultured is self-described as “… a young conservative blog and online grassroots coalition focused on society and culture.” After all, what could be better than a website that defends our rights to own firearms while tackling disgusting third-wave feminism?
The article that caught my eye was one Counter-Cultured shared from another website called “Good Guy Swag,” a veritable homing beacon for the failed man-children of the world. The article was “21 Lost Gentleman Traditions That Still Apply Today.” I didn’t need to read the article to know that it wouldn’t be able to solve any of the problems with men, or that men deal with. The lumbersexual‘s image used to promote the article said as much. So, with a few minutes to spare, and a burning desire for a good hardy belly laugh I pressed on.
The top-list wasn’t so much of a guide to learning how to behave around women, or how to treat women. It was more like the White Knight starter pack and guide to being a doormat. If it was a late night infomercial the promotional speech would probably sound like this: “With our proven system you’ll have dozens of women walking all over you in a matter of hours! Satisfaction guaranteed!” After which point the internet ate it up and begged for more. You can view the article’s share stats via a widget on the page’s side. Thousands and thousands of lonely frustrated men and confused women shared the hell out of that article in what was probably the largest collective pity party ever seen on the ‘net, second only to “The Sexodous, Part 1.”
I expected the article to be a plug for a new scent of Stetson cologne, Axe body spray, or discounted fedoras. It was a small relief to know that the author was at least trying to be genuine and sincere in the advice, but unsurprisingly was just another long laundry list of things that men need to do for women. Men have no shortage of advice, recommendations, and demands for how to treat women. We’re told every minute of every day how to treat women. It comes to us from the newspaper, the television, the radio, pop culture, social media, friends, and family. This list didn’t help much. If you follow these 21 rules for men, and I sincerely hope you don’t, you’re going to find out that waiting on a woman’s every beck and call while being her personal piggy bank and chauffeur is a recipe for disaster.
Women are quite literally the most contested group of people with their own ever-evolving list of non-reciprocating etiquette. In spite of it all men will accommodate these demands if they’re shown to be based on rational common sense and don’t require us lie prone on the ground. So, I poked and prodded Counter-Cultured to see if they would post a list of things that women should do for men. And they delivered. Their Facebook page shared an article “21 Lost Lady Traditions That Still Apply Today.” If you thought the article for men was bad, then you should really take a glance at the women’s version.
The women’s version of 21-lost-traditions puts all responsibility for a relationship on the man, and excuses the woman from ever having to do any heavy lifting. If women follow this set of advice, and I sincerely hope they don’t, they’ll probably find themselves surrounded by men who resent them for being manipulative, needy, selfish, and demanding. If your model of advice for women is made up of rules like “close your mouth when chewing,” “don’t talk with a full mouth,” and “put your cell phone away during dinner” then we’ve got much bigger problems. Life goes on outside of the dining room or restaurant, and I have faith that women can offer more than a pretty face and polite behavior in the dining room.
Counter-Cultured caters to a young conservative audience. But, their rhetoric is pure feminism. The thousands of men and women who are reading what’s believed to be contemporary conservative advocacy and criticism are falling for the cult of female empowerment. Empowering women to participate in social and political advocacy and the various spheres of civil and domestic performance is not the same as whipping men into behaving like obedient lap dogs and butlers.